Life Isn't Always Grand. What Can You Do?
I am not the world's expert on life experience. I'm just a guy with ample internet access trying to make a difference in whatever little way he can, hoping to make a few bucks in the process.
So when you come across self-help pieces like this one from me, you have every right to discredit me. To say, "You're too young. You don't know what you're talking about. You haven't been through what I've been through!"
It's okay, that happens. In some of these cases, you might even be justified. I might not agree with you, but you can say whatever you want.
Really, that's the only point I'm trying to get across in these pieces. You can choose to say and do whatever you want, in any situation.
You can choose to be positive, to focus only on what you can control, to look at the bright side, to smile. Your outlook and your actions are ultimately a choice.
I'm sure you could come up with some reason why you might not be positive in various situations, and I'm sure you could be perfectly justified in doing that. But who is that good for? Who is that helping? It's not even making you feel happier!
Sometimes life sucks. It does. You don't have to make any mistakes, or poor decisions, or be in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sometimes annoying, bad, and frustrating things are going to happen to you. They just are.
Sometimes a lot of these things are going to happen in quick succession. Life isn't always going to be grand. And when it's not, it might not even be your fault! What can you do about it? There's really only two options.
You can react to the situation at hand. Maybe that means freaking out, or getting really angry, or becoming depressed, or shouting at people.
If you run out of money, or go through a bad breakup, or lose your job, or lose everything, no one will be surprised if you react in one or several of these ways. They probably wouldn't even think less of you!
Then there's option two.
Instead of reacting to a situation, you can take a step back, and choose how you're going to act in light of (or in spite of) the situation. You can be intentional in your actions, and those intentions can be based on behaviors and choices that will both make you feel better and lead to wiser decisions.
When life sucks, what do you do? You can do whatever you want! But you and everyone else will be better off by choosing to be positive and uplifting.